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The Benefit of Supporting Your Wife in Marriage

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A tree can never make a forest and no man is an island that’s why in a marriage or in a relationship couples need each other’s support to survive.There’s a saying that to every successful man, there is a woman behind him. So also to every great woman of our time, there is a man supporting her.

Many women achieve little of their God given talent due to suppression from their husband. Many men are afraid of the fact, that their woman becomes uncontrollable when they achieve greatness.

Some men centre’s on this notion and in order to avoid any form of unruly behavior from their wife, kept on suppressing her to earth.But how true is that? Fear is a powerful force that can tear a relationship apart, when a relationship lacks trust, fear comes in; that’s why some men act based on their fear.

 Frankly speaking, we cannot generalize every woman character based on one individual trait and attributes.It best to marry the person you love and trust not to marry based on the individual physique or personal achievement.

When a woman marries her soul mate, she will get every support she seeks from her husband. Some men tongue can be very deceptive, making you believe you are one soul with him.

In a relationship, you have to be very careful when making a choice.To every young man out there, I urge you to support your wife in her chosen career and that’s how to make a woman happy. Supporting her will surely boost her morale to conquer every odd.

Every woman in our society today has one or two thing she desire to achieve in life, help her achieve her dream.Don’t keep her in bondage because of fear. Help her to be great. She too can be like those women you watch on television.

Some men admire other people’s wife, how beautiful they look and the success they have achieved. Your wife can be like her even better off.Only your support and trust she needs to explore her God’s given talent.

Many families are poor due to inability of couples to support each other. A man can support the wife and vice versa.The benefit of supporting your wife in marriage boils down to this true life story am about to share.

 This is a story of a young man, who does his business at Onitsha (Nigeria). He provides for his family, though resources weren’t enough to cater for all the needs of the family.

 When the wife gave birth to her last baby, she aired her desire to start a crayfish business. The husband did not stop the water that is about to flow rather he encouraged her. He told the wife to give him some time to source for start up money for her.

Later, the husband went further to seek opinion of his friends on the business the wife wants to start. His friends were of the opinion that the wife will become stubborn and hard to control when she start amassing wealth.

Due to the love he had for his wife he couldn’t succumb to his friend advice to stop the wife from trading. He rather dipped hand in his savings and brought out 300,000 naira for the wife’s business. The wife was highly glad and she started the business immediately.

After three years in business, one blessed day she woke the husband up around 4am and told him, that she is tired of living in another man’s house. ‘Is time we buy land and start building our own house’ she said.

The husband was just sober that morning listening to the wife until the woman brought out two million naira and gave to him to buy land for the house. The husband couldn’t believe himself; the high level of joy that erupted in his heart was like a volcanic eruption.

It was a morning of joy for the family. The husband later bought a land at the cost of 600,000 naira and used the remaining money to start the building. Through their combined effort they were able to finish the building on time. This is little of what a woman can do for their husband and family.

Dear husband is time you set yourself free by letting that woman beside you free. Don’t fear that men will come after her. Women are strong and clever, if they want to mess around in that your cage, they can and still bear the consequences thereafter.

Though, I do not advocate for that. My aim of writing this post is to educate young men on the benefit of supporting your wife in marriage. Not all women can be like the woman I told in my story, we have different individual qualities. Your wife can be unique in her own way.

There are different ways you can support your woman, she may decide to further her education and seeks your support, is your duty as a loving husband to support her.

Don’t tell her she not going to work with the degree, don’t tell her is a waste of time and money. You can encourage her to enroll on online college course. Many relationship dies because of one partner selfishness and unwillingness to support the other.

Is good for husband to be protective over their wife; but do not be over-protective that you consider her progress a threat. We all want to love and be loved, loving your wife and supporting her dream will solidify the relationship and increases intimacy in your marriage.

Marriage is always enjoyable when you plan it well. Never let fear destroy your marriage. To my dear young women, you too can support your husband also. Some women have made the life of their husband pitiable due to the man’s inability to provide all the needs of the family.

 In this life every man destiny are not the same. You can help him where you think his weak at for the family to move forward. It must not be the man that will provide all the needs of the family. If you are better off financially you too can help.

This text is meant to encourage families and to portray the benefits of supporting your wife in marriage.

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How to Save Your Marriage From Collapsing

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The rate of divorce in the world is increasing day by day. What would be the course of this increase in divorce? I will be rolling out points in this blog post on how you can protect your marriage from collapsing. Marriage is an institution created by God for man and woman to stay together and consummate their love in friendship and mutual respect.

These days marriage is no longer build on friendship and mutual respect is now more of obligation to fulfill, that’s the major reasons why there is problem in today’s marriage.

If you are keen in saving your marriage from collapsing, kindly read this article to the end to assimilate the ways to protect your marriage for collapse.

Avoid extra marital affairs:

Respect your marriage if you want to save it from collapsing. Nowadays couples no longer keep their marital vows. Marriage is not where you behave as if you were single, when you say I do to that handsome man or pretty lady, you have to understand the need to keep your marital vow sacred.

Those who don’t respect their marriage, usually face issue of divorce because major cause of divorce is infidelity. When you don’t respect your marriage that when you start to involve yourself into extra marital affairs. If you are into extra marital affairs turn away from such because you may be digging the hole that will collapse your marriage.

Mutual respect:

Stubbornness, disobedience, lack of respect can cause you your marriage. Have mutual respect for your partner and you will save your marriage from collapsing. Don’t fight equality with your husband; many women have lost their marriage by fighting the authority of their husband.

Save your marriage from collapsing by respecting the authority of your husband. The same goes to the men; you don’t subject your wife to modern day slavery and expect her to accord you full respect. If couples want their marriage to stand the test of time they must learn how to respect each other, otherwise they should be ready to weave bye to their marriage.

Develop trust with your partner:

Suspicion comes into marriage when there is lack of trust. Save your marriage from collapsing by building mutual trust with your partner. When couples build trust, they hardly suspect each other. They grow with one love being mindful of the need to preserve their marriage from collapse. Any marriage that lacks trust is likely to face divorce. The beauty of marriage is trust, without it marriage is just another thing.

The ways you can build trust with your partner is by being truthful and honest all the time. Trust comes gradually and what builds it is honesty, when your partner notices that you are being honest, he or she will start to build trust in you.

Shun every form of lies, deception and dishonesty in your character and see how secure your marriage will become. If you take these three tips very serious you will be saving your marriage from total collapse.

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Disadvantages of Living Together Before Marriage

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Marriage is a beautiful thing but to some women is not an easy journey. It’s always the desire of every young man and woman to get married to their heartthrob. In this life we all desire for good things and good things we all hope to get. Your desire for good things should not put you into some behaviors that are unhealthy.

Some girls willingly move into their boyfriend’s apartment hoping that things will work as they have hoped. To some it may work but to others reverse may be the case. The word cohabit means to live together and have a sexual relationship without being married.

The aim of this post is to point out the disadvantages of living together before marriage.

Delay in bride prize:

Cohabiting with a man can cause delay in paying your bride prize. When a girl move into a man house hoping it would necessitate his desire to do the needful (bride prize) you are making a big mistake. Men marry for different reasons, don’t make yourself cheep by cohabiting with him; it may land you to a life of regret. When you start living with a man you are not married to, you are exposing yourself to lots of dangers. Living together before marriage is dangerous. You may miss your rightful soul mate on the process, or even get pregnant which you wouldn’t want. He can even throw you out after the adventures with him.

Save yourself from tomorrow’s misery now you have the time. Remove the thought that you living with him, would help protect him from being snatch by other girls. Stop fighting for man’s attention, self development should be paramount to you now. When your soul mate comes, you wouldn’t fight for his attention with other girls; it comes natural.

Health issues/unwanted pregnancy:

It’s easy to develop health issues when cohabiting with a man. Many young people that cohabit often engage in unprotected sex, which is not healthy for their well being. You can easily get pregnant or even get infected with diseases during unprotected sex. Most of the girls that cohabit with a boy, once they get pregnant always go for abortion and abortion has its own complications; If not well done can cause serious problem in the womb. Cohabiting with a man has caused many girls to indulge in series of abortions.

A certain girl was cohabiting with his boyfriend while in school on the process had three abortions for the boy. In their final year the girl asked the guy his plan towards her, the boy told her, he has no intention of marrying her. The girl was so devastated after all they had been through together and the sacrifices she had made for the relationship all is about to be swept out of the room. Is a pity that human being is unpredictable, that why you have to trade with caution when dealing with anyone.

Today is the best day to make good decision for your life; you can visit your boyfriend but living together before marriage is harmful and should be discouraged. The health issues is not limited to the womb alone, when a man you are cohabiting with sends you out of his house after he has gotten enough feel of you, it can cause you mental pressure.

 Some girls are not always the same when the man they gave all their best turns back at them. In order to avoid all these regrets in the near future, avoid cohabiting with a man before marriage.

Lowers your dignity:

I guess you still want your man to have some respect for you after marriage; if so don’t lower yourself dignity by cohabiting with him before marriage. Cohabiting with a man can make the man see you as a sex object for his satisfaction. When a girl move into a man house you will definitely start to perform the function of a wife to him i.e. cook, wash and have sex with him etc. he many just see you as a treasure he has gotten on a platter of gold. Marriage is not a quest, prepare and plan your life.

Shame to your family:

When you move into a man house you are simply disgracing your family. It is the wish of every parent to give out their daughters to a well deserving suitor. Don’t bring disgrace to your parent by living together before marriage. Many young girls of this age often cohabit with their boyfriend during their university education. Many have also confessed of having two to three abortions for their boyfriend while in school.

How do you think your parent will feel if they find out you are living with a man and he got you pregnant and you aborted it. Show yourself and your parents some respect by moving out of that boys house, if his in serious need of you, he should do the needful (bride prize). Chopping what doesn’t belong to him is stealing, I hope you understand.

Regret:

Cohabiting with a man can cause life time regret. Let me share a short story of a girl that lived with her boyfriend for a long period of time. They both had a baby girl together on the cause of cohabiting. Unfortunately the young man died in motor accident, the girl was left alone to mourn her life. She was not legally or traditionally married to the young man; they only met in the city and fell in love and had a baby girl together.

The girl doesn’t know the home town of the boy, though she had been disturbing the boy to take her to his people, he kept on postponing until the painful tragedy happened. When the boy’s family heard about the accident, they came and took his body for burial. The family did not ask about the way about of the girl that had a baby for their son because they are not in support of the relationship.

When the news came to them that their son was living with a girl, they felt the girl bewitched their son. This girl was left alone in the world to regret her decision for accepting to live with the boy. It’s very nice to fall in love but do not let it blind you. If a man wants you to start living with him urge him to come with his family and see yours according to tradition. Small keg of palm wine with kola he can make his intention known.

The both families can organize a low budget wine carrying and paying of dowry so that you as a girl can be proud to live with him as your husband.

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Five Ways to Safeguard Your Marriage

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The essence of marriage is not only for procreation but to find fulfillment and love. As it is written in the scripture that a man will leave his father and mother and join with his wife and both shall become one. But are you still one body and soul with your husband or wife? Do you still feel the love you felt the first time you said yes to him. Is the fire of love still burning in your marriage?

In our today’s world, many married people are not happy in their marriages. Cheating and lying mixed with bad behavior have turn marriage upside down. Many factors have contributed to the cause of unhappiness in marriage. My discussion today is not the cause of unhappiness in marriage.

The point am giving out today are the five solid ways to safeguard your marriage. Do you know that marriage is beautiful when there is peace and love?  Follow these guidelines and you will swim in the ocean of love.

Be a friend and a wife to your husband:

Marriage is not only being a good wife to your husband, but you can still be his best friend. How do you know you are a friend to your husband? You can know that by when he starts sharing his secrets with you and also when he starts talking freely with you. One characteristics of friendship is that they usually talk informally most of the time.

What do I mean by that? Friends always talk freely, they hardly hid anything and they share their secrets and still keep their secrets secret.

When you and your husband starts being friendly you will definitely see the change in your marriage and it will help to safeguard your marriage. Some women will love to be friend to their husband, so that the man can share his secrets with her.

But if you don’t share us with him, he will definitely retrace his steps and that will have bad effect on the relationship. The good thing about being a friend to your husband is that both of you will hardly condemn each other.

Understand the tempting period in marriage:

There is always a tempting period in every marriage. Is a time you will ask yourself “did I make the right choice” “had I known he had this ugly character” “how do I get over this? Understanding that a time will come when you will ask yourself such questions about your marriage will help you overcome the challenges when it comes.

When such tempting period comes understand that is a minor rainfall that will soon stop. Do not centre on that moment because it will not linger on forever.I would love to share a short story about young couples that failed to understand the tempting period.

A young lady got married to his heartthrob, after the marriage the couples started having minor quarrels in their marriage. The man is always busy with his job and comes back in the evening while the wife stays at home.

Due to the misunderstanding and loneliness the wife feels when the husband goes out for work she started visiting their male neighbor who was still single and doesn’t go out all the time.

She goes there to have a harmless discussion with young man, but within some weeks she started finding the guy attractive and enjoys the young man company. To cut the long story short, the woman started having sexual feelings for the young man.

Before she could understand the time and season, the young man has already gotten the woman pregnant. As soon as the woman found out she is heavy with another man’s child, she quickly went back to his father’s house with the complaint that the husband is maltreating her.

Few weeks later the husband got the news of the wife pregnancy and started making arrangement on how to bring the wife back. He bought drinks and went to the girl’s parents to apologize, which after the wife was released to him.

 After some years, the child born became sick; the doctor handling the case required that one of the parents donate blood to save their sons life. The wife opted to donate hers, but after checking the blood sample her blood could not be used on the child.

Then the only option left was for the husband blood to be transferred but they ought to check the sample because is a medical procedure. After the blood check, the both parents could not donate blood to the child, that’s when the whole drama began.

The truth was known and the marriage was shattered. My dear reader, take heed or thou fall. When the tempting time comes, understand it will only last for a while and the fire of love will be rekindle again.

Give all your love to your husband:

Marriage is not a place of experiment rather is house of commitment. Do all your experiment before you say I do, once you are married your commitment is required. Give your husband undivided attention, marriage is not for babies. If you want to safeguard your marriage give all your love to your husband.

When you are married you don’t have to go out again experimenting with any available young man on the best sex position. Your husband needs your love, attention and commitment. Stand by him, comfort him and be his companion and your marriage will be safeguarded.

Enjoy with him:

Men love girls who blend with time and season. Do not make him see you as an old school or old cargo that should be left at home when he wants to have a good time. Advice him on the importance of savings but when he wants to spend, go and enjoy with him. Use every form available to you to build closeness with your husband. The more the closeness the higher the intimacy and the higher the intimacy the more secured you are in your marriage.

Let the past remain in the trash can:

Finally, marriage has its ups and down, keeping records of every behavior and maltreatment will not prosper your marriage; rather it will destroy it. Couples should learn to forgive and forget for the good of their union. If you want to safeguard your precious marriage, do not open the trash can.

LET THE PAST REMAIN WHERE IT BELONG.

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Marriage tips for Intending Couples

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It is good to get yourself equipped with the necessary tips about marriage before saying I do. Marriage can be lovely and enjoyable when couples understand that marriage comes with responsibility and you are bound to fulfill those responsibilities unless your marriage will become another tragic movie.

Marriage is not a place you can live as you are when you were single. You have to understand that another human is by your side. You have to carry him or her along. I will outline some tips for intending couples who really want to make their marriage great.

1. Do not be rude to your partner it creates vacuum in the heart of your partner.

2. Don’t go to bed without settling the misunderstanding or quarrel you had with your spouse during the day.

3. Learn to treat your partner like a baby. I always advice women to know that whenever you give birth to your new baby, just remember that you now have two babies to take care of. Men have baby nature in them that always want to be pampered.

4. Learn to settle your dispute between yourselves avoid involving third party in your dispute.

5. Court with your partner before settling down, it helps you to know if two of you are compatible.

6. Avoid calling your partner by his name, use sweet name instead.

7. Learn to support your partner, yes he’s the man but your little support can save him some stress.

8. Be a companion, comforter and a helpmate to your partner. When a woman stops being a companion to her husband, she’s just inviting trouble in her home.

9. Give all your love to your partner don’t go outside to experiment with young boys or girls outside you marriage. Major cause of divorce these days is infidelity; avoid such so that you can have peace in your home.

10. Remember not to stop doing those things that made him or her fall in love with you. This is where couples make mistake, when they final get what they wanted they stop doing those things that made their partner fall in love with them.

11. Do not suffocate your partner with bad character, learn to talk soft and avoid using harsh voice when you communicate.

12. Give all your love to your partner; make him to always yearn for you and your body all the time. Some women think that the best way to get something from their husband is to start denying him their body. That’s a big mistake, do not be like those women.

13. Do not be hard in forgiving your partner whenever he asks for it. Forgiveness is what makes marriage last long. Without forgiveness no marriage will last.

14. Do not call your spouse “useless man”

15. Learn to build trust with your partner. Trust is very vital in marriage if you want to sleep with your two eyes closed without fear, build trust with your spouse.

16. Support each other. Women should know that supporting your husband in marriage will never make him a lesser man rather he will see more value in you.

17. Do not wash your dirty linen outside for all to see, no matter how grieved you are, do not take your marriage issues outside your home.

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