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Five Ways to Safeguard Your Marriage

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The essence of marriage is not only for procreation but to find fulfillment and love. As it is written in the scripture that a man will leave his father and mother and join with his wife and both shall become one. But are you still one body and soul with your husband or wife? Do you still feel the love you felt the first time you said yes to him. Is the fire of love still burning in your marriage?

In our today’s world, many married people are not happy in their marriages. Cheating and lying mixed with bad behavior have turn marriage upside down. Many factors have contributed to the cause of unhappiness in marriage. My discussion today is not the cause of unhappiness in marriage.

The point am giving out today are the five solid ways to safeguard your marriage. Do you know that marriage is beautiful when there is peace and love?  Follow these guidelines and you will swim in the ocean of love.

Be a friend and a wife to your husband:

Marriage is not only being a good wife to your husband, but you can still be his best friend. How do you know you are a friend to your husband? You can know that by when he starts sharing his secrets with you and also when he starts talking freely with you. One characteristics of friendship is that they usually talk informally most of the time.

What do I mean by that? Friends always talk freely, they hardly hid anything and they share their secrets and still keep their secrets secret.

When you and your husband starts being friendly you will definitely see the change in your marriage and it will help to safeguard your marriage. Some women will love to be friend to their husband, so that the man can share his secrets with her.

But if you don’t share us with him, he will definitely retrace his steps and that will have bad effect on the relationship. The good thing about being a friend to your husband is that both of you will hardly condemn each other.

Understand the tempting period in marriage:

There is always a tempting period in every marriage. Is a time you will ask yourself “did I make the right choice” “had I known he had this ugly character” “how do I get over this? Understanding that a time will come when you will ask yourself such questions about your marriage will help you overcome the challenges when it comes.

When such tempting period comes understand that is a minor rainfall that will soon stop. Do not centre on that moment because it will not linger on forever.I would love to share a short story about young couples that failed to understand the tempting period.

A young lady got married to his heartthrob, after the marriage the couples started having minor quarrels in their marriage. The man is always busy with his job and comes back in the evening while the wife stays at home.

Due to the misunderstanding and loneliness the wife feels when the husband goes out for work she started visiting their male neighbor who was still single and doesn’t go out all the time.

She goes there to have a harmless discussion with young man, but within some weeks she started finding the guy attractive and enjoys the young man company. To cut the long story short, the woman started having sexual feelings for the young man.

Before she could understand the time and season, the young man has already gotten the woman pregnant. As soon as the woman found out she is heavy with another man’s child, she quickly went back to his father’s house with the complaint that the husband is maltreating her.

Few weeks later the husband got the news of the wife pregnancy and started making arrangement on how to bring the wife back. He bought drinks and went to the girl’s parents to apologize, which after the wife was released to him.

 After some years, the child born became sick; the doctor handling the case required that one of the parents donate blood to save their sons life. The wife opted to donate hers, but after checking the blood sample her blood could not be used on the child.

Then the only option left was for the husband blood to be transferred but they ought to check the sample because is a medical procedure. After the blood check, the both parents could not donate blood to the child, that’s when the whole drama began.

The truth was known and the marriage was shattered. My dear reader, take heed or thou fall. When the tempting time comes, understand it will only last for a while and the fire of love will be rekindle again.

Give all your love to your husband:

Marriage is not a place of experiment rather is house of commitment. Do all your experiment before you say I do, once you are married your commitment is required. Give your husband undivided attention, marriage is not for babies. If you want to safeguard your marriage give all your love to your husband.

When you are married you don’t have to go out again experimenting with any available young man on the best sex position. Your husband needs your love, attention and commitment. Stand by him, comfort him and be his companion and your marriage will be safeguarded.

Enjoy with him:

Men love girls who blend with time and season. Do not make him see you as an old school or old cargo that should be left at home when he wants to have a good time. Advice him on the importance of savings but when he wants to spend, go and enjoy with him. Use every form available to you to build closeness with your husband. The more the closeness the higher the intimacy and the higher the intimacy the more secured you are in your marriage.

Let the past remain in the trash can:

Finally, marriage has its ups and down, keeping records of every behavior and maltreatment will not prosper your marriage; rather it will destroy it. Couples should learn to forgive and forget for the good of their union. If you want to safeguard your precious marriage, do not open the trash can.

LET THE PAST REMAIN WHERE IT BELONG.

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Marriage tips for Intending Couples

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It is good to get yourself equipped with the necessary tips about marriage before saying I do. Marriage can be lovely and enjoyable when couples understand that marriage comes with responsibility and you are bound to fulfill those responsibilities unless your marriage will become another tragic movie.

Marriage is not a place you can live as you are when you were single. You have to understand that another human is by your side. You have to carry him or her along. I will outline some tips for intending couples who really want to make their marriage great.

1. Do not be rude to your partner it creates vacuum in the heart of your partner.

2. Don’t go to bed without settling the misunderstanding or quarrel you had with your spouse during the day.

3. Learn to treat your partner like a baby. I always advice women to know that whenever you give birth to your new baby, just remember that you now have two babies to take care of. Men have baby nature in them that always want to be pampered.

4. Learn to settle your dispute between yourselves avoid involving third party in your dispute.

5. Court with your partner before settling down, it helps you to know if two of you are compatible.

6. Avoid calling your partner by his name, use sweet name instead.

7. Learn to support your partner, yes he’s the man but your little support can save him some stress.

8. Be a companion, comforter and a helpmate to your partner. When a woman stops being a companion to her husband, she’s just inviting trouble in her home.

9. Give all your love to your partner don’t go outside to experiment with young boys or girls outside you marriage. Major cause of divorce these days is infidelity; avoid such so that you can have peace in your home.

10. Remember not to stop doing those things that made him or her fall in love with you. This is where couples make mistake, when they final get what they wanted they stop doing those things that made their partner fall in love with them.

11. Do not suffocate your partner with bad character, learn to talk soft and avoid using harsh voice when you communicate.

12. Give all your love to your partner; make him to always yearn for you and your body all the time. Some women think that the best way to get something from their husband is to start denying him their body. That’s a big mistake, do not be like those women.

13. Do not be hard in forgiving your partner whenever he asks for it. Forgiveness is what makes marriage last long. Without forgiveness no marriage will last.

14. Do not call your spouse “useless man”

15. Learn to build trust with your partner. Trust is very vital in marriage if you want to sleep with your two eyes closed without fear, build trust with your spouse.

16. Support each other. Women should know that supporting your husband in marriage will never make him a lesser man rather he will see more value in you.

17. Do not wash your dirty linen outside for all to see, no matter how grieved you are, do not take your marriage issues outside your home.

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Ten Signs To Know If You Have Found Your Soul Mate

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The dream of every young man and woman is to get married to their soul mate, your one and only; the person worth spending the rest of your life with. Many people go into marriage and rush out sooner than expected because of not being with the right person.

Marriage is a beautiful thing when you are with the right person. Many young man and woman die early as a result of not being with their actual soul mate. Soul mate simple means the person that you have a special friendship with because you understand each other feelings and interests.

When you are one soul with your partner this life will be a paradise to you. In this post am going to point out ten signs to know if you have found your soulmate.

Compatibility:

The first thing to check out when trying to know who your soul mate is; how compatible both of you are. Compatibility is the ability of people or things to live together without problems. To have a good relationship, friends must be able to understand each other and should be willing to make the relationship work.

Though there is no relationship devoid of problems but the ways and manner you handle issues in your relationship matters most. The way compatible people behave and play with each other differs from the way those in abusive relationships do.

Compatibility means both of you can talk heart to heart; this simply means understanding each other’s mind all the time. When two lovely souls matches together, they can communicate non-verbally and still understand each other very well.

To know if you have found your soulmate you must consider the level of compatibility both of you share. People marry for different reason and your reason of marrying is what determines whether you have to carry out all these checks. For instance, a lady who is so desperate to settle down may not have all the time for soul searching.

Like vision/aspiration:

Different people have their different views and vision about life. In marriage is advisable to marry the person that shares like vision with you. Couples that have similar vision and aspiration will do well in marriage.

Willingness to forgive:  

A forgiving heart is a receiving heart; two great souls that match together will always love to forgive each other at all time. Your willingness and eagerness to forgive wrong done to you by your partner is a sign of soul match. When two people are in a relationship and one person is always willing to forgive and the other always cling to offense, the two of them would hardly make a good soul mate.

Attention:

Another way you can know your soul mate is by the kind of attention the person gives to you. If your friend is too busy to know how you are faring, is a glaring sign you have to take very serious. He/she may not change in marriage.

Protect your interest:  

Your soul mate will always protect your interest. When your friend is eager to protect your interest, give your soul rest, stop searching, he’s the one. Nowadays some couples love to expose their spouse weakness. It’s not supposed to be so. If you are on soul searching and your friends doesn’t care about your own interest, please trade with caution.

Heart communication:

Heart communication is a way of knowing if two souls match together. Heart communication is not what you develop over night, it comes gradually. When two people stays for a period of time they tend to understand each other very well, they don’t have to voice out everything before their partners understand. Their look, action, can trigger a communication.

Understanding:

You can know your soul mate by the level of understanding both of you share. ‘Marriage is not a bed of roses’ some would say but couple with high level of understanding can still make their marriage a paradise.

Willingness to help:

Women are created to be a help mate to their husband. Your soul mate must be the one willing to help at all time.

Mutual trust:

Trust is a vital ingredient in a relationship. When trust is not there, suspicion start to creep in, quarrel grows, and friends will start having bad thought among themselves. Is always good to settle down with the person you can trust. Many marriages today are having issue of trust. Any marriage where there’s lack of trust, check it, it doesn’t last long

Over-protective:

Only valuable things can be protected, when your partner becomes over protective towards you; it means he sees value in you. Value he does not want another guy to snatch away from him. These are the ten signs to know if you have found your soulmate. If your friend doesn’t have any of these, think twice before saying I do.

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